One of the most frequent questions we get to our Ask the Experts column is for how to handle a brother-sister dance in lieu of a father-daughter dance. I always advise to think bigger than just “what song” and think about which traditions do and don’t make sense to you. A brother-sister dance is fine, but there’s no rule that says you have to have a father-daughter dance or that you have to replace it with a different dance. But, if you are looking for a song, here are ten great choices for a brother/sister dance and 5 spectacularly bad ideas. Also see below for a special offer of more song suggestions for special moments in your wedding.
10. White Wedding- Billy Idol
9. Brothers and Sisters – Coldplay
8. When We Grow Up – Diana Ross
7. C’mon Get Happy – Partridge Family
6. Dance Little Sister – Terrence Trent D’Arby
5. Kind and Generous – Natalie Merchant
4. I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
3. We Are Family – Sister Sledge (may be best for a group sibling dance)
2. It Don’t Have to Change – John Legend
1. You’ve Got a Friend – James Taylor
5 Spectacularly Inappropriate Choices for a Brother/Sister Dance
5. Butterfly Kisses- Bob Carlisle
4. John, I’m Only Dancing- David Bowie
3. Dance Little Sister – Rolling Stones
2. I Will Always Love You – Dolly Parton or Whitney Houston, either way, not a good plan
1. Sister Christian – Night Ranger
I know a lot of people like to suggest “Wind Beneath My Wings” for situations like this, but don’t do it. It’s one of those “listen closely to the lyrics” situations. Sure, “Did you ever know that you’re my hero?” is a great line for your brother but do you really want to suggest “It must have been cold there in my shadow, to never have sunlight on your face”?
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